Never talk about the faults of others, no
matter how bad they may be. Nothing is ever gained by that. You never help one by talking about his
faults; you do him an injury, and injure yourself as well.
Most of us indulge in gossip and dwell at length on the faults of others, forgetting
our own. But the wisdom masters say that this trait will put you in deep trouble and rob your
inner serenity.
When you talk ill of others, the toxic emotions are bound to destabilize your own emotional balance. That's why the people who are on the spiritual path must concentrate their energies more on their own conduct than onlookers.
When you talk ill of others, the toxic emotions are bound to destabilize your own emotional balance. That's why the people who are on the spiritual path must concentrate their energies more on their own conduct than onlookers.
Some months back I wrote this wonderful
quote of Dalai Lama in my journal which I come back and forth to remind myself of the truth:
If someone remains in a peaceful and tranquil
state of mind, external surroundings can cause them only a limited disturbance.
If you are in a situation which you can't tolerate, better to walk out politely instead of silently enduring
it.
Suppose if the situation doesn't permit you to leave, be prepared to endure
with full acceptance. You get more
inner strength by reading this famous quote of American novelist and short
story writer James Lane Allen:
Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he
believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions, but when he realizes
that he is a creative power and that he may command the hidden soil and seeds
of his being out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful
master of himself.